I went to visit a friend of mine; I
had told him three days before that I would be spending the Easter holiday at
his place. When I finally got there, the house looked like he’d been robbed.
What happened, I asked in shock. What do you mean? I mean why is the place
topsy-turvy? He casually said oh, that? Well, I’ve been busy, haven’t got the
time to clean up. I was exasperated because I knew how the conversation would
have turned out if it were my place and he came through. Of course I made him
fix it with me before he resumed at the office for his shift that day. I got
back from the short-lived holiday refreshed. A few weeks later, I went visiting
my cousins, all four guys.
As I got in, their flat was in total disarray. I
tried helping them clean up, of which no one was willing to help, then the door
bell rang and a really nice looking lady walked in. She didn’t seem an inch
uncomfortable so I asked, don’t you tell them to clean up? Why she answered? To
say that I was shocked would most definitely be an understatement. I turned to
the guys who were all engrossed in their work and asked, why won’t you keep
your flat clean? Aren’t you ashamed? All these while, none of them responded to
my rants, nor did they make a move. Ok, I continued; you may enjoy the chaos,
but when a lady is coming around, it is important to keep the place clean, so
she could take a cue from you. Then one of my cousins said, “that would be
pretending to be who we aren’t”, another said “na eye service be that na”, and
they all roared in laughter.
Then it got me thinking... I asked a
few of my male friends what they thought about the subject matter, and it was
more than a revelation. This particular guy was straight with me, he said he
gives his girlfriend everything; the least she could do was keep his apartment
clean. Another guy said women are usually the ones who try to keep up
appearances and act like they are cultured, but the truth is we are all
carefree beings if left alone.
A man could choose to keep his sock
in the living room or leave his shoes in the kitchen, it didn’t really matter,
he could also welcome guests with his place in disarray. To them (guys), it
doesn’t mean anything. If you are their friend, you’ll understand they have a
tight schedule and have zero type for chores.
But for women, I’ll use myself as an
example. My friend called me on a Saturday, I was doing laundry when she called
and asked if she could come over, I said no. She had previously asked for my
itinerary and I told her it was completely free, so she asked why I was turning
her down and I said I was busy with laundry; she offered to help but I refused
her presence. When we dropped the phone, I began to ask myself why I refused
and I realised it was for the simple reason that the house was unkempt. I had
thrown all my clothes out of the wardrobe, I had emptied the laundry basket on
the floor, I had finished mopping the floor and the furniture weren’t in their
proper positions, I just didn’t want her to come see the house in that state.
Then I reviewed what my cousins had said, about women being the ones who
pretend to be perfect and I kind of saw reasons in the argument.
Then I
narrated both scenarios to someone (an old wise man) and he simply said men are
open to friendship and are flexible, they literally have nothing to hide, but
women are too quick to judge themselves that they seldom have time to be
themselves. While I have mixed reactions on this topic and know not what angle
to fall on, I’d like to know what you think.
Written by: Soba Mac Pepple
Soba Mac Pepple is an Energetic, Electrifying and Outspoken Lady! Wild, Crazy Wild! And very much in Love... with Music. ‘’My Experiences are my Pieces, My Pieces are my Words, My Words are my Thoughts. I am a Writer, Lover and Believer’’
I Live, I Love, I Learn!
Twitter: @therealsoba
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