Everyone who knows me knows that once
I’m in a relationship with a man, some things are expected. Not that I become a
tigress or worse. But I begin to lay down rules for my new friends and the old
ones already know what is expected of them, so they play along. It’s an amazing
feeling to be in love with someone who puts you to bed at night and wakes you
up in the morning, someone who knows just the right words to say to you to
brighten your day, and knows when to keep quiet and listen to you rant about
anything. It’s totally amazing to share your world with someone who really
cares and will always be there (for as long as the relationship lasts or for
eternity).
I’m a helpless romantic, everyone
knows that; some people can be in love and hide it for a very long time, but
with me, every opportunity to experience love is an opportunity to show it. I
may not flaunt it in your face, but the very little thing that mattered before
will suddenly have little or no value. I’ll smile more, be cheerful, and
excited about anything. My girls know this and sometimes, they use it against
me in the meanest of ways.
HOW TO
MARK YOUR TERRITORY…
1. Know the kind of friends you have: most times I abhor my friends, but
whether I choose to accept it or not, they have played a major role in who I am
today and who I’ll become tomorrow, so I don’t joke with them. However, there
are things that matter to me I wouldn’t trade for the love of my friend. Once
you’ve identified the kind of friends you have, you can now proceed to drawing
that line.
2. Know which one of your friend is suitable to be introduced to
your man:
one of my friends is an expert in flirting, she doesn’t need to say a word, the
guy will just get it that she’s down for a quickie when I step into the
kitchen, good to the lavatory or step out to get something. Now this kind of
friend, even if the world is falling, I will never introduce my man to her; not
because I don’t trust him, but because it’s better safe than sorry.
3. Be Sharp; don’t let down your guards: every one of your friends
want what you’ve got. They may be in a “perfect” relationship, but still prefer
your man; maybe because of his physic or his money or maybe they just want him
to get at you. Whichever it is, don’t let down your guards. If the shake lasts
more than five seconds, or the eye contact and conversation begins to take
another turn, your antennas should be sharp enough to disrupt their signals.
4. Always look your best: Have a dress for every occasion and
event, and if you must go out with him, there’s no such thing as being
overdressed. You may just be going out there to have a few drinks and you run
into his boss, colleagues, friends or even his ex girlfriend. There’s nothing
as painful as being underdressed when you get to meet people that matter or
once mattered in his life. You know what they say, first impression is
everything (not that I totally believe in it), but once you’ve met his ex, you
can’t take back that feeling of she looked fly, I wish I had dressed better
etc.
5. Be Wise: Before a man cheats on you with your best friend, he usually
shows signs, leaves trails etc. he grows fund of that friend and compliments
her whether in her presence or absence. He also tries to fix dates, meetings
etc. that involves all three of you, that way you wouldn’t be suspicious. This
is a time to severe that relationship, or simply keep that friend at arm’s
length for your own good and happiness. I’m not asking you to automatically
become suspicious of your man and your friends, or become over possessive or
protective. All I’m saying is LADIES, BE WISE!
I have no problem telling my friends
how I feel, when it comes to them relating with my man. If you do have a
problem with being blunt, then it’s either you don’t love the man enough to be
protective of him, or you need to change your friends.
Written by: Soba Mac Pepple
Soba Mac Pepple is an Energetic, Electrifying and Outspoken Lady! Wild, Crazy Wild! And very much in Love... with Music. ‘’My Experiences are my Pieces, My Pieces are my Words, My Words are my Thoughts. I am a Writer, Lover and Believer’’
I Live, I Love, I Learn!
Twitter: @Undisguised1
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